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How are things going for you today Amanda 2 more sleeps till beloved returns. hows hip pain warm hugs melly cuddly cats make my world seem so much more fun
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I'm not invited!! It's an annual work/dinner thing...no spa in hotel either which is in Heathrow so not much incentive, LOLOL
Well, lessons went quite well today, lots of willing pupils! Phew...now I just have to concoct some more hot potions for them to drink for their morning break!- today they had chocolat fraud with grated nutmeg and cinnamon, that went down well, esp the double cream....then they played in the snow after lessons which makes my hands tingle as they literally stay out there until they are frozen red!
Now I just need to get some sleep to actually be able to function tomorrow! LOL
Much love and thank you for being there!
Amanda
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hi Amanda,
I wonder if with Mark going away on business etc that perhaps you might consider appointing someone just to help out with things around the home etc.
I have direct payments and employ 3 people to come and help me to be "an independant mum" and they mean that we have robust back up when he is at work.
it also means that going into hospital is easier for me because we have more people to call on to help run things here.
I do hope this post has not offended in any way- I know of course that some help will not replace the lovely Mark but I just has helped me so much and I wanted to share.
Jenni how to be a velvet bulldoser
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amanda_lewin wrote:I'm not invited!! It's an annual work/dinner thing...no spa in hotel either which is in Heathrow so not much incentive, LOLOL
Amanda Then I'd ask him to book somewhere suitable that I could stay. He'd be able to spend at least some of the time with you. Surely he'd welcome the prospect of time alone with you, without the children? Everyone needs a break and especially when you have RA. What's good for the goose .......! I'd suggest it to my hubby. Carol
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Thanks Carol, but it isn't him who books it is the company. they have no choice where they stay. When he travels alone (like Brussels) the 'policy' is they stay in the cheapest hotels! LOL
We did go away for two nights in July which was the first time EVER!!!! LOL
He worries sick about us...all the time. He rings and e/mails me all day, well, as much as he can...
Love,
Amanda
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Hi Amanda,
I really think that you should consider Jenni's suggestion, it would make life so much easier for you, and would give you more time to focus on the kids lessons, spending quality time together etc... and would allow you to store up energy.
Hope you have a better nights sleep tonight,
Love,
Barbara
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Hi Amanda,
Not long now sweetie. I'm glad the children are having fun with the weather. I don't know how you manage to keep going for them all with the pain you are in at the moment. I hope you decided to take some pain relief and can get a good nights sleep. The day will fly by tomorrow. Thinking of you.
Julie
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Thank you!
One more night....and yes I will be popping some white pills tonight! LOL
I am a bit wobbly about the care as I don't want SS to presume I can't look after my children as we home school, that would devastate me.
Love,
Amanda
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Nonsense Amanda, this has nothing to do with you being "a good enough mother," who says a mother with a physical disability can't have needs to support her in her role as mother and teacher to her children? Sorry for blurting it out like this, but I really don't think you would have any problems receiving help and that receiving such help would jeopardize your home teaching, as the children are doing well. Your children are lovely, grounded and above all cared for, loved and well looked after, and that is what counts.
Love, hugs, and hope you slept well,
Barbara
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amanda_lewin wrote:
I am a bit wobbly about the care as I don't want SS to presume I can't look after my children as we home school, that would devastate me.
Love,
Amanda
Social Services would be assessing your needs as a disabled person with RA and offering ways to support you, make your life easier, not criticising how you look after your children. Look at it from the other angle Amanda, would Social Services want to see you struggling to cope before you ask for help? I was assessed in hospital last year and have no regrets. Help is out there, you just need to ask, it won't come to you. Carol
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I understand but it is difficult.
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Sorry hon, but help IS avaiable out there and if anyone deserves it, YOU do.
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Hope Mark is home now Amanda and you are ok.
I've been thinking of you lots during the last few days and of course you and your family have been in my prayers.
My logical head knows what the others are saying re SS is absolutely spot on but my emotional head knows just how you feel. Hope you can find an acceptable solution.
love and hugs
Diane x
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I know how you feel about SS too Amanda!
When Hannah was 20months old I had an emergency major operation and I was terribly worried how Ian would cope on his own with Hannah, but I flatly refused to see a social worker because I thought she would be put into care.
I can see now that I was worrying needlessly but at the time I was so scared.
Hope Mark gets home safely tonight.
Love, Doreen xx
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well sorry but i dont rate them at all when my son was little she said phone no matter what daniel needs and i rung and rung and rung only for info did i get any where no, when he started school they did same said what ever and i said i have been told that before and she said yes we will and same again.
Hope you ok amanda and he home safely
love TXX
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